Happy New Year!!! Can you believe it is 2018 ALREADY? Clearly, I love the New Year’s posting. This is post number 2. See post # 1 here about New Year Budgeting! I guess it is something about a new year, a fresh start, a new beginning and since my holiday posts were a little late in delivery I thought it best to be early for my New Year’s Post!! Both of them (wink wink).
It is 2018! Very exciting. All the new resolutions that will abound those first weeks of January. It’s very exciting. Then life begins to settle down and the resolutions begin to fade away and we go back to our usual routine. You wonder WHY, what went wrong, why do things stay the same?
Well a few things I’ve observed that I’d like to share with you, then give you a few suggestions to practice and see what comes of your efforts.
Here are a few reasons why things stay the same:
- Change is hard. It just is.
- Habits take time, and patience, to develop. And practice. And consistency.
- It is uncomfortable to be uncomfortable.
- The unknown is scary. Like super scary.
- What if no one likes me.
- What if I don’t like me.
Here are some ideas to shake the silliness out of you. I want to say stupid, but that sounds harsh, so let’s go with silliness.
1. Change is hard. Yes, it is. But as the profound and highly recognizable quote from the Nike people say, “Just do it.” If you want to change your life you are going to have to change. Here are a few Q’s to ask yourself to see where you may need some change?
- What in my life could be better?
- How could it be better?
- What would better look like to me?
- Do I think it is possible?
2. Habits. It is often talked about that the current habits we have hold us back. Then it makes sense we need NEW habits, right? You can read Stephen Covey’s book, 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and learn a ton. I did and it is a priceless read. If you don’t have the time to read it right now here is what I do to develop some new habits and routines: Every night before I go to bed I write in the notes section of my smartphone, the 5 – 7 things I want to accomplish tomorrow. # 1 is usually exercise, but for the sake of this example, let’s say you want to save $10. Than # 1 on your list should be
- Make coffee at home, bring lunch to work, car pool to work, do NOT go to the store, or whatever it is that you can do that will save you $10. Get it?
3. Being uncomfortable stinks. BUT the more you practice the easier it gets. In short, you have to sacrifice something to get where you want to go that is DIFFERENT than where you are today. Most likely, you’ll feel uncomfortable. I think it will be okay. Just give it a try. For example, you didn’t come into the world knowing your colors, right? You somehow made it through those awkward preschool years until you knew them and wa-la, no more awkwardness. You learned. So, there you go. Which brings me to item # 4.
4. The unknown is scary. Here is a little fact, until you learn about something, it is not known. Then you learn about it, now you know and then it is not scary anymore. The quickest way to overcome something is to LEARN about it. It is typical that people will run from something they don’t know and the EFFORT it takes to get to know it. Hint, just do the work and move on. This will also have a side benefit of building a habit of just doing whatever it is you are avoiding.
5. What if no one likes me. Then they weren’t meant to be your friends. Period.
6. What if I don’t like me. Well that is ridiculous. If you are doing something that makes you not like yourself, then don’t do it! Duh.
However, if it is a logical change and you are just uncomfortable, see # 3 and put on your big boy or girl pants and just do it.
I hope you had fun. I did. Life is always changing and evolving. You should be too. Not just because it is a new year, but because growing and learning opens your life in a way that staying still or staying stuck just can’t provide.
You’ve got this!
HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
Karen & Bill